I Was Seeing a Massage Therapist for Three Years and We Became Very Close Friends

He eventually disclosed that he had developed feelings for me.

I’m a 35-year-old straight woman living in the Midwest. I was seeing a massage therapist for three years and we became very close friends. I referred my friends to him and helped him grow his business. He eventually disclosed that he had developed feelings for me. I went into instant shock and said that I…

by Dan Savage

Long Story Short, I Want To Be Done Being Kinky

Shortly after we got together, my husband disclosed a major kink: MMF threesomes.

Is it ever OK to stop being GGG? I’ve been with my husband for 26 years. Shortly after we got together, my husband disclosed a major kink: MMF threesomes. I was young and a virgin and up for anything then, but we didn’t start hooking up with other men until around year six of our relationship. Over the…

by Dan Savage

He Actually Told Me He Was Dating Other Women When We First Met

Of course he was!

I’ve been living with my boyfriend for a year. We met on FetLife and I was honest about being in an open relationship (at the time) and seeking a sexual connection over a relationship. But one nut after another and pretty soon we were professing our love for each other and he shared that he…

by Dan Savage

I’m Arguing for the Freedom to Do an Illegal Drug

I would appreciate your external, outside, drug-positive perspective in this.

I’m a 29-year-old straight male. I’ve been with my 25-year-old partner for six years. I love her and think that we are perfect for each other. We have all the things that make existing with someone wonderful. But about two years into our relationship, I had a two-week-long affair while I was out of the…

by Dan Savage

I Wish Her Exes Had the Courage to Tell Her Their True Feelings

They expressed to me that they felt emasculated by her and that their self-esteem was shot.

I’m having a problem advising a friend. She’s been through a divorce and, now, the breaking off of an engagement. To put it simply, both relationships ended because she was cheated on and she has a zero-tolerance policy around infidelity. To complicate matters, in each relationship we—her friends—have witnessed her being very cutting to the…

by Dan Savage

My Sixteen-Year-Old Son is Stealing Our Sex Toys

I want to give him a prepaid gift card and have him pick out what he wants from a reputable shop. Is there a better way to handle this?

I’m positive you’ve written something about this in the past. I have searched your archives but have only managed to find people arguing in the comments about this topic when what I want is your advice. My 16-year-old son is stealing our sex toys. My son took my husband’s handheld toy several months ago. I…

by Dan Savage

Is It ‘Come’ or ‘Cum’?

And other linguistic debates.

As you can see by my signature, Dan, I’m a linguist. On your podcast, you frequently ask researchers “whatchyougot” on all kinds of sex- and romance-related questions. I thought maybe you’d be interested in some expertise on linguistic matters, too. And I have some on “cum,” “cumming,” and (shudder) “cummed.” The technical term here used…

by Dan Savage

He Informed Me That He Deposited My Come From a Blowjob in my Half-Finished Casserole

Now, I cannot sleep and it is impossible for me to think of anything else. I wish he had never told me.

Something is bothering me and I don’t know where else to turn. I’m a bisexual man. I’ve been married to a great guy for the past six years. Despite COVID, we gathered safely for an outdoor Thanksgiving dinner with my family. My mom, my brother and sister-in-law, and my adult nieces and nephews and their…

by Dan Savage

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