I HAVE AMBIVALENT FEELings about your articles on sex (“The Nasty Issue,” 7/28). On the one hand, I felt that the issues that your writers undertook were very courageous and enlightening, not to mention at times amusing. Nonetheless, I find it kind of ironic that we live in such a sex-crazed society. Wouldn’t it seem logical for people to practice abstinence or at least stop being so promiscuous in the age of AIDS? In today’s society, a lot of people of all ages, but especially youths, confuse sex and love. Some have grown up in abusive homes, etc., and are unable to distinguish between the two, not necessarily through any fault of their own.
This is where the ambivalent part of me comes in. While the articles’ forays were great, I feel that you guys didn’t foray deep enough and the articles could have been a means of education as well as entertainment. The issue of love needed to be explored more thoroughly and perhaps should have included a juxtaposition to compare and contrast the two themes that are woven into the fabric of people’s lives: sex and love. As Madonna said in her book Sex, “Sex is not love. Love is not sex but when they come together, it’s the most incredible thing. Pass it on.”
So to sum up my potential doctoral dissertation thesis, everyone wants to be loved but since love is relatively harder to come by they grab the next seemingly best thing: sex. People should be looking for love and not just sex although the two together make for a really hot combination.
Bethesda, Md., via the Internet