ONE ASPECT OF THE ARticle featuring David Wilmot (“Tag Team,” 3/17) and of coverage in other media of Walter Fauntroy is deeply troubling. As an adoptive mother, I can appreciate the pride these fathers take in the children who have joined their families.

But I wonder why they find it is necessary or kind or wise to give to the public such private and hurtful details of their children’s lives. Do we really need to trade on what happened to our children before they became our own? Does that make us heroes? I think not.

All adoptive parents face a dilemma. We have come to know more about the sorrows and needs—and true numbers—of children waiting for families. At the same time, we strive each day to make our children’s lives as normal as possible. Can we express the urgency of the crisis for children of all ages who do not have families, without further stigmatizing them and our own children?

I think so. We can, by letting our children be themselves, miracles that they are, touch the everyday lives of those around them. They are just natural parent recruiters, because they are so terrific. And we can fight for the resources to give the waiting children “forever families.” Powerful people can make more happen, if they choose.

Downtown