The article titled “Hell on Heels” (11/21) by Sarah Godfrey, discussing the phenomenon of “catfighting” in the D.C. area, had two overarching themes: the tendency to avoid discussing the behavior for what it is and the tendency to shift, by various comments and innuendo, the blame for that behavior onto men in the bars or onto men in general.

At 35, I have visited many bars and been to many parties. I have never once picked a fight with another person over the trite and ridiculous things Godfrey and her fellow catfighters do. And being a man, I have been exposed to far more suggestions and expectations that I would resolve differences or seek status through violence than she or her friends. I daresay the vast majority of men are like me: peace-loving and able to manage their own reactions to events, despite Godfrey’s inaccurate generalizations.

Godfrey and her buddies act violently for reasons only their therapists (which they obviously need) and they can best discuss, perhaps after some desperately needed soul-searching. Perhaps they think they can act this way because they are likely to get into much less trouble for it than men do and not generally be held to account for their immature and antisocial behavior. That needs to change—again, obviously.

I have a piece of advice for Godfrey and her friends: Grow up before you end up where you belong: jail. And stop blaming others for your own obvious lack of maturity and manners!

Vice President

National Coalition of Free Men

D.C. Chapter

Alexandria, Va.