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When two married men who’ve never met both use the phrase “when the shit hit the fan” to describe their lives years after their daylong wedding high, you know the film won’t be shying away from the truth. If you had to sum up Doug Block’s social experiment in one word, it would be “devastating.” Devastating if you’re about to get hitched, devastating if you’re married and struggling through a rough patch, and especially devastating if you’re separated or divorced. Block once moonlighted as a wedding videographer, which allowed him to witness “ordinary people experience the most extraordinary days of their lives.” And after seeing so much bliss, he went all Carrie Bradshaw and “couldn’t help but wonder” how these newlyweds fared once reality set in. So, years later, he sought out a handful of couples whose weddings he once filmed and interviewed them, which results in something unsettlingly close to a therapy session. Not all of 112 Weddings is gloom and doom, though; more partners profiled here have stayed together than not, and some are even still chipper about their love. But even those who continue to stick it out and claim to be content get choked up talking about the difficult times they’ve endured, or have words they’ve never said to their spouses that remain stuck in their throats. It’s fascinating, if not always easy to watch, especially after seeing footage of the couples’ joyous unions. Block’s big question is if and how marriage can change relationships. Few can come up with an answer besides the legalities involved. One of the still-married men offers a blunt assessment of the deed: “To stand there and say, ‘I devote myself to you for the rest of my life’— that’s kind of insane.”